tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24929983.post115136509580444802..comments2022-03-29T17:15:20.203-04:00Comments on Cincinnati NAMjA: What's On Your Agenda?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24929983.post-1152283090248360562006-07-07T10:38:00.000-04:002006-07-07T10:38:00.000-04:00One of my dearest friends is HIV positive. I (a st...One of my dearest friends is HIV positive. I (a straight woman) love him like the brother I always wished to have. <BR/><BR/>He was diagnosed about 6 years ago after becoming deathly ill and being hospitalized. I think he knew before this crisis that he had been exposed,but chose to live in denial. The way he responded to that incident exposed some deep cracks in his sense of self-worth and the sincerity of folks that love him dearly. With God's grace, he recovered, got medical attention - with no insurance, mind you, and has resumed his life.<BR/><BR/>Unfortunately,my friend has never skipped a beat indulging the side of his life that he doesn't share with me. Another trusted roommate/"sister" of his revealed that he continues to "vanish" for extended periods during his weekly visits to her home. Every Friday night, no matter what time, he's out and returns at 6am. He never discusses this pattern - and she hasn't confronted him, either. When they were roommates, he would leave the house every single day for hours at a time, never revealing what, why, who. We are both convinced that he is cruising and or doing the sex party scene, just as he did before he was tested. <BR/><BR/>I can tell you that he is a very VERY fragile person who wears a facade that borders on delusional. That said, however, I want to confront him about his conduct. I think he has a responsibility as a human being to chill on what appears to be public cruising. <BR/><BR/>I'm not judging is SGL orientation; that has nothing to do with my love for him as a person, and I would gladly embrace any person he wanted to share his life with.<BR/><BR/>But his conduct appears to be a public health issue. He doesn't date women - never has - but he's told me about all the married men on the DL (and will point them out to me for reference and protection)<BR/><BR/>Any thoughts on how to address this? Again, my concern has nothing to do with his SGL attraction, but cruising and sexing with HIV is a problem for everyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com